In early childhood, our ability to pick up on social cues is dependent upon the degree to which we devote our attention to noticing these cues. When an environment full of stimulation and often confusing information is thrust upon us, we tend to focus on that which is most urgent and pressing. If attention is limited, some things will go unnoticed. If our ability to filter out extraneous stimuli is lacking, we assign equal importance to everything that gets through, making it impossible to prioritize and process information.
It takes time and effort to stay in touch with friends. When every day is a race to keep up with everything you have to do, getting around to the things you should do seems to happen rarely. Many of us could spend every minute of every day putting out fires, juggling too many balls and dancing as fast as we can.
We all like new things. New is interesting. New is exciting. New is stimulating, sexy, captivating and scintillating. New holds our attention… for a while. Then new is old, boring, passé and dull. There is usually a bit of time between new and old, that transitional period during which an object, relationship or idea is still fresh enough to taste before being ripe enough to throw out.